Psychic Insights  

1. Compliment someone today. How do you feel when you receive a compliment? You may feel a bit embarrassed, or downright proud! But it does feel good, doesn't it? So why don't we offer the same in return and compliment someone each day? Whether it's your partner, your child, co-worker, or a complete stranger, a little kindness goes a long way! Tell your guy or girl how good they look or how good they are at something. Tell your child how proud of them you are. Tell a stranger you like something they're wearing or compliment their hairstyle--if you actually do like it! That's another thing. Compliments MUST be sincere. If not, people will see right through you and an insincere compliment is worse than no compliment at all.

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1. Beliefs become reality. It’s good to question your beliefs from time to time. Do they still serve you? Or are your beliefs holding you back? As Anais Nin said, “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are.” The way one person sees something may be totally different than how someone else sees it. And that’s all due to our internal belief system that has been set up since we came into this world. Next time you sense anger, fear, or worry coming up, look inside yourself and see what beliefs are helping to create these feelings. Now ask yourself if you truly need to hold on to the belief. How much happier and freer would you be if you let it go and adopted a more positive and constructive belief system?

2. Put up a picture of yourself as a child. Talk to it often. Very few of us can say that we had ideal parents, or that our childhood was wonderful in every way. Each one of us has an inner child that is wounded, angry, lonely, or sad in some way. Find a picture of yourself when you were smiling as a kid. Frame it. Set it on your nightstand or hang it on a wall that you pass by often. Look into the eyes of the child you were and offer a smile in return. Send loving, healing thoughts to your child self. This may sound like a silly thing to do, but you’ll be surprised at the amount of emotion that erupts when you dare to look into your own eyes. Do you feel bad for the child in the picture? Sad? Do you feel the child is weak and pitiful, and it makes you angry and disgusted just to see that face? Any negative feelings that come up are clear indications that work needs to be done, issues need to be faced, and emotions must be healed.

3. Set small goals and accomplish them every day. How many times do you fall into bed at night feeling you got nothing accomplished? There’s a long list of things you’ve wanted to do, but somehow you forgot about them, got sidetracked, or by the time you remembered you were too exhausted to even care. Make a list of your top goals for the following day. Try to include no more than five things since you don’t wan to feel defeated before you start. Tackle each one in turn until you’ve got the list cleared out. Then when you settle down to some well-deserved relaxation time, you won’t feel guilty! Do this for large projects and long-term goals too. Break them down into tiny steps that are easy to follow. Pretty soon you will have accomplished what you set out to do.

4. Don’t let a bad mood or worry color your days--and especially your nights! Good and bad feelings only control our lives if we allow them too. Naturally, we’d love to have positive thoughts constantly dancing through our minds! Too often though we see life through the glasses of a bad mood or worry. When we do this, nothing seems right or good any more. Our problems appear insurmountable, and people seem completely impossible to get along with. If they had a gold medal for worrying, I’d be the Olympic champion every time. There are times when I lay in bed awake allowing every worry--real and imagined!--to parade through my mind all night long. Lately though when I catch myself in this worry-wart mood I put on the brakes and laugh at myself. After all, what in the world can I accomplish by worrying? Worrying is passive. It gets you nowhere. And it has never, ever solved or prevented a single thing! Then I change my worry to wonder. I ask myself, “Hmmm…I wonder how I can overcome this obstacle? Maybe I could try this. If it doesn’t work, I’ll try something else.” The following morning I put my plan into action. Now, this is doing something! I’m actually moving forward and creating change in my life! Next time you find yourself worrying or in a bad mood, realize that it’s simply a quirk in your thought patter at the moment. Stop yourself right there in your tracks and change your line of thinking to that of wonder. “I wonder why my boss is in a bad mood today? Maybe he’s under a lot of stress.” Or, “I wonder how I can pay my cell phone bill this month? Maybe I can take the bus to work or share a ride with someone a couple times a week and save on gas money.” By changing your mind to that of curiosity and wonder you allow growth to take place. Give it a try next time you find your mind spinning wheels. See what you can come up with that will create changes.

5. Wear sunscreen. Okay, this seems almost silly, but do you use it? I live in Tucson, Arizona, and I can tell you that about 90% of the people out here don’t even seem to know what sunscreen is! Who wants to look 60 when they’re really 40? Who wants to risk skin cancer? Who wants to look like Samsonite luggage?! There are some things in life we can’t prevent, but some things are very preventable. Taking care of yourself is easy once you get into the habit. I wear sunscreen whenever I’m out. I even buy face powder with sunscreen in it. Of course, I have my grandfather to thank for my skin care rituals. He worked for a real estate company for 20 years and was in charge of putting up signs for companies. He was out in the sun nearly every moment of his work life. And he had skin cancer covering just about every square inch of him! Back in the 70’s nobody knew about or cared about sun damage. We used to slather ourselves in Coppertone oil and bake ourselves! Now we know better. You only have one body in this lifetime. Take care of it as best as you can.

Dr. Kelly

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1.  Don't put off things that you can do today.  It's so easy to find ways to stay busy and fill our days to overflowing until there's no time left to do the things we should do or want to do.  The Internet has made this far easier!  Time passes by quickly, and before we know it, it's long past time for bed.  Make it a habit each day before you sit down at the computer to do at least one thing you SHOULD do.  Nothing horrible will happen if you make work or emails wait a bit, and you'll have a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment for having accomplished something you know you should have. 

2. Whenever you see an opportunity to do a good deed, jump on it!  Whether this is opening a door for someone in a wheelchair, helping an elderly person to load groceries into their car, making a casserole and taking it to a neighbor who's ill, or sending a "just thinking of you" card to a friend or family member you haven't talked to for awhile, do it.  It's sad that at times I've offered to help someone out and they look at me with suspicion or even anger.  We live in a day and age where it's "every man for himself" and good deeds are incredibly uncommon.  Let's bring back the days of common courtesy and kindness.  Not only will it make the other person feel good, but you'll walk away feeling downright incredible! 

3.  Don't be a nag.  There's nothing worse than having someone hovering over your shoulder telling you you're doing something wrong, should do it better, or forgot to do it at all.  Women are notorious for nagging, but men are guilty too!  I have a few Capricorns in my life who seem especially good at this skill.  I say live and let live.  Nobody is perfect, and people certainly don't need to be reminded of their shortcomings.  Instead, choose to focus on yourself and ways to make your life happier.  Many times nagging is just a cover up for deeper problems in a relationship, or a way to take the focus off yourself and the reasons why you aren't feeling happy or fulfilled.  With my naggers, they mean well.  They have the "I'm a mom/dad to the world" syndrome going on.  I love and respect their well-meaning reminders and advice, but as an adult it tends to get a bit annoying.  We're all on our own path in life; try not to walk on someone else's too much. 

4.  Unsubscribe to all but your most favorite groups and newsletters.  It adds stress to our already busy lives to wake up each morning and see our inbox stuffed full of messages, most of which we don't even care much about.  Take a look at the groups and newsletters you're signed up for, if they aren't offering you anything of value, let them go.  Unsubscribe to catalogs, magazines, and junk mail you don't read.  You'll save some trees while saving your time and energy from having to sift through the stuff and tossing most of it out. 

5.  Think good thoughts, especially about your past.  We've all had some really bad things happen to us.  Some worse than others.  Refuse to dwell on these negative memories.  All it serves is to bring your energy level down, and surround you with an aura that deflects anything good from coming into your life.  Whenever a negative thought about the past comes up, replace it with a positive thought that is equally powerful.  For instance, say you were abused as a child or in a relationship and a certain event pops into your mind.  Instead of giving in to the memory, bring up a happy memory you have and recall it in as much detail as possible.  If you have very few happy memories, or find it hard to come up with something when anger or pain strike, make a list of some happier times when you're in a good mood and read it when you're feeling down.  You could even write down future events that you hope to experience.  If you were in a very bad relationship, write down what you would love in your next relationship.  (Be reasonable though because nobody's perfect!)  Write down what your future mate will be like and some happy times you'd like to share with him/her.  This is also a great way to program your mind and energy field into attracting what you desire most.  The past is gone, it's done and over.  The only way it can have any effect on you now is if you let it.  Those "bad memory" pathways have worn a groove in your mind, so it's much easier to recall them--whether we like it or not.  Choose to create "positive memory" pathways and see the difference it makes in your mood, and in your life.

Dr. Kelly

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It’s so easy to fill our homes, our heads, and hearts, with things that offer us no real value.  Here are some ways to recapture a simple life.

Spend Simply:  So many of us live beyond our means.  No matter how much money you make, it’s never enough because your cost of living will increase in direct proportion to your increase in money—or credit cards!  Decide right here and now to live as simply as possible.  Cut up your credit cards, get them consolidated if you need to, and pay them off.  Stop using credit as a way to buy everyday things.  Think about it, if you don’t have the money now, you probably won’t have it tomorrow, next week, or next month.  Why pay an extra 20% or so on every purchase?  Instead, set money aside for those things you really want.  Chances are, within a few days you won’t want it any more since the vast majority of purchases are impulse buys.  Be sure to create a budget and stick to it!  This is one of the most difficult, yet most important financial decisions you could ever make.

Eat Simply:  Foods that spoil the fastest are best for us.  I imagine that Spam and Twinkies can withstand a dozen nuclear attacks!  I’m no health-food nut, though I do try to eat a mostly Vegetarian diet.  Along with avoiding most meat, I’ve tossed out the white rice and replaced it with brown—still trying to get used to that!  I make my own whole-grain bread.  I grab carrot sticks or an apple when I’m hungry between meals rather than potato chips or a donut.  I still allow myself to have occasional treats, but the healthier I eat, the better I feel.  I’ve also discovered that all of that junk I ate before really doesn’t taste that great anymore.  In fact, I can’t remember the last time I had a potato chip.  By eating healthier and more natural foods, you’ll be surprised at the money you save at the supermarket.  I spend about $80 a week for a family of 4—this includes things like shampoo, toothpaste, and toilet paper as well.  I’d like to get into the habit of spending even less, but do enjoy some of the treats I buy.  J 

Think Simply:  Okay, I’m not suggesting you become Forrest Gump, but we’re overloaded by so much information that we never know what to think or believe half the time.  I avoid all news channels, newspapers, and news sites online.  Truthfully, if aliens from another galaxy came to take over the planet, I’d be the last to know.  I like it that way.  The news is so full of pain, drama, and misery that I always tend to feel depressed or angry after reading the stories.  I choose to spend my time in a happier, healthier frame of mind.  Also, don’t try to learn too many things at once.  If you find a new path you think is interesting, check it out, but don’t overdo it.  Gathering just a small portion of information from the internet on meditation alone can be overwhelming, and it’s meant to calm and center you!   Find something that resonates with you and stick with it until you feel the urge to move on.  As souls in human bodies we’re meant to change and grow over time.  Don’t try to do it all at once!

Love Simply:  Love is the most basic, honest emotion there is, and yet we have so much trouble understanding it, keeping it, and showing it.  Don’t be afraid to say “I love you.”  Say it often.  Say it every, single day of your life to those you care about.  Touch the people you love.  Compliment them.  Praise them.  Speak from your heart, not your ego.  What we give out, we receive, so offer the kind of love you want in return.  Love doesn’t have to hurt or be confusing if we’re brave enough to express our feelings, and are true to ourselves and those we care about.  If you’re in a bad relationship, get out—plain and simple.  I’ve done it twice.  It wasn’t easy, but necessary.  Love is not pain, or sadness, or misery, or emptiness.  Love should fill you with joy and peace.  Don’t settle for less, and don’t offer anything less in return.

Dr. Kelly

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Live your dreams, don’t simply fantasize about them. I like a line from the R. Kelly song, I believe I can fly. It goes, “If I can see it, then I can do it. If I just believe it, there's nothing to it.” And that’s the key, changing a fantasy into a belief. I’ve already talked about the power of beliefs in a past blog. If you truly believe something, then it becomes your reality--good or bad!

Too many of us live in a “bad reality” state of mind. All it takes is flipping that little switch in your mind. Whenever I feel down or want to throw in the towel in regards to my life path and dreams, I know that it's just my negative thinking switch that's on! Trust me, sometimes it's in the on position for a long time! But, I also know that thoughts are just thoughts and in no way reality unless I make them so. That allows me to flip the switch the other way and begin thinking positively which keeps me moving forward.

I do an average of one thousand readings per year. Nearly everyone has some dream in mind that they feel is totally out of reach, yet they can’t let it go! They want to lose weight, to be in a better relationship, to have a more stable financial life, to start their own business, to go back to school, to eat healthier. Many of these people have carried around the dream for a very, very long time. And you know what? The only thing stopping them from achieving their dreams is themselves! Yes, we all have obstacles, but nobody is ever backed completely into a corner with no way to move. There’s always at least a tiny bit of room for movement forward.

How to move forward when you’re feeling crushed under the weight of your problems? Trust me, I know what it’s like to be in a deep, deep hole of debt, health problems, and no food in the house with kids to support. You get to a place where you can’t possibly see the light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you did, you’d think it was a train coming to run you down! Now, you have two choices: Spend the rest of your life buried under your problems and dream your days away, or buckle up your courage and determination and change things around! I don’t know about you, but no matter how hard it is to create a better life, I’d rather try than admit defeat!

Buy a notebook and grab a pen, this is your first step to having a better life. Give it an empowering title like, “My life from this moment on”, or, “From dreams to reality.” I titled mine, “This is who I am.” It may sound cheesy, but having that title on your notebook helps to imprint this new life into your mind since you’ll read it each time you pick the tablet up.

Getting down to work. On the first page make a list of where your life isn’t working. On the next page make a list of your dreams. Now…each consecutive page will hold the title of one problem and one dream. So, one page may be titled: Getting out of debt. Another may be titled: Going back to school. Under each title brainstorm ways to overcome the problem or make the dream into reality.

For instance, a few years ago I was living on only $900 a month and had 5 kids to feed, bills to pay, etc. I titled one page: Ways to bring in extra money. I listed as many things I could think of to make extra money without having to go out and get a regular 9-5 job and leave my kids alone all day. (I home school my kids.) I’m an avid book collector, so I figured I could sell them on Amazon. I also went to library sales and bought books for pennies on the dollar and sold them on the site as well. And, I started offering psychic readings on eBay. Great! That got me out of the financial hole I was in! Of course, each of those ideas had their own small steps such as creating ads on eBay, but those two ideas were the quickest, easiest, and cheapest way to begin bringing in money.

What about dreams? I had always wanted to be a multi-published author, and had written romances since I was in my 20‘s, though had never gotten published. Those manuscripts sat collecting dust for 15 years until I found myself divorced for a second time. Being on my own again had me dredging up all sorts of dreams! So, I made a list of ways to get published. I was far too eager--and broke!--to go the traditional publishing route. Printing out manuscripts, paying for postage, waiting eons for a reply…So I did extensive research into eBook publishers and sent some query letters to the top ones on my list. Within the last year alone I’ve signed nine book contracts!

Whether getting out of a rut, overcoming a problem, or making a dream come true, all it takes is determination, courage, and a step-by-step plan. The biggest obstacle to achieving what you set out to do is lack of focus. By breaking big projects or problems down into small steps you can overcome just about anything, and begin living the life of your dreams!

Dr. Kelly

www.ThePsychicSoul.com

Dr.Kelly.Psychic.Counselor@gmail.com

As time goes on many blog topics will be repeated in some form, but it’s always good to be reminded of things that would help us to lead healthier and happier lives. I tend to write about what’s on my mind for the day. If you’re reading my blog then you can get an idea of what I’m thinking at the moment.

I’m a huge worrier! I worry about everything big and small. If I can’t find something to worry about, I invent things to worry about. How ridiculous is that? Mark Twain said: “I’ve known a great many troubles, and most of them never happened.” That saying is so true. Most worries never do happen! And if they do, they’re usually not as bad as we had anticipated. We spend too much time and energy on things that offer us no real value and never move us forward. Worrying is like a car spinning wheels in the sand. No matter how much you step on the gas, no matter how fast those wheels are turning, you don’t get anywhere!

Recently my second daughter had very sad episode in her life. Her fiancé broke up with her out of blue after being together for nearly three years. Okay, I’m sure there were problems and signs of trouble before the breakup, but she felt that when two people love one another they should always work things out. He evidently didn’t feel the same way and just announced one day that they should no longer be together. My daughter was devastated. I felt so bad for her. I thought of how she was probably feeling to the point that I was actually experiencing great anxiety and pain! I laid awake in bed that night mulling over this terrible event. I was so worried about her and started imagining the worst possible scenarios. Like how depressed would she get? Would she begin drinking? Stop working? Try to commit suicide? My mind was really doing a number on me! I was awake for a few hours just…worrying!

When I got to the point where I was inventing things that COULD happen, I laughed at myself! My higher self and guides decided to kick in at that moment and had me putting on the brakes. What good was I doing anyone by worrying so much? I was losing sleep, causing myself great anxiety, and it was ridiculous! I needed to be levelheaded and offer my daughter comfort and a shoulder to cry on. It wouldn’t help her if I was a wreck! I then felt a calmness settle over me as I realized that all difficult times in life help us to grow and that “this too shall pass.”

In the next moment I flipped everything around and decided to see what good could come out of this. They weren’t ready for marriage and I know they didn’t have much in common. They were basically “used” to being together and so they never thought of parting ways. They say it’s more difficult to leave someone you’re used to than someone you love. I’m not sure about that, but I do know that it is hard to let go of any habit, even if that habit is another person! Also, my daughter had a lot of dreams to pursue and her fiancé wasn’t very supportive. The breakup would give her a chance to follow some of those dreams now. And, now that she’d had a taste of what she didn’t want in a relationship, she could be more selective with her next boyfriend. She also said she isn’t ready to jump into anything too quickly as she did last time. Those positive thoughts calmed me and helped me to feel better.

Every coin has two sides. So, too, does every problem or situation. Nothing is ever black or white. I learned a tremendous lesson that night. Now, whenever I catch myself worrying or feel backed into a corner due to a problem, I KNOW there’s another way to look at things. A more positive way. I seek out solutions and a more positive outlook rather than feeling that things are hopeless and that I have no control. As I’ve said before, thoughts are just thoughts and don’t have any real impact unless we give them the strength to change our lives--for the good or bad. Thoughts = Feelings = Action or Inaction!

Dr. Kelly

www.ThePsychicSoul.com

Dr.Kelly.Psychic.Counselor@gmail.com