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Michael Grinder, well-known expert is non-verbal communication and group dynamics offered some amazing insights during the May 19, 2009 Beyond Lip Service.

 

The insights will be presented in-depth at his Group Wizardry program June 22-25, 2009  http://tinyurl.com/crs7z5

 

This year he is presenting a compelling program that covers the non-verbal patterns of three aspects of Group communication:

Group Dynamics – understanding the differences between one-on-one

            communication and group dynamics; especially important to focus on the

            group instead of the individual.

Presentation Skills – how to have an intelligent presence so that you influence

            and persuade people.  

And Coaching – how to give people feedback that circumvents their possible

            resistance.

Learning and practicing these skills prevents us from having to go through the learning curve the hard way.

 

This 5-day program is a condensed version of his longer programs. The amount of valuable information is so much that we have found it best to cover all three aspects, but have one of the three focuses receive the most attention—this year it will be “Coaching.”

Excerpt of show:

 

S: Coaching certainly has increased in popularity in the last decade. What is your particular approach to coaching?

 

M. We have many fine coaching programs in the market place: executive coaching, life coaching, career coaching, spiritual coaching – you certainly are one of the best I have ever encountered.  My particular bent is Behavioral Coaching.

 

S. Explain more what you mean by Behavioral Coaching?

 

M. When the relationship between the coach and the client is voluntary a coaching model that explains the client’s internal map of the world is effective. The coach assists the client in rearranging how they view reality. By helping the client shift their attitudes, values, perspectives, the person operates in the world differently. Most coaching models are successful because they change the person from the “inside out.”

 

However, if the relationship between the coach and the other person isn’t voluntary, another coaching model is called for.  When someone is the boss, manager, supervisor to the other person then it is more effective for the coach to stay out of the other person’s inner sanctuary. The alternative is to change the person from the “outside-in.” By providing the person with a new set of skills, actual behaviors, competences, they are more effective in the world which will then change their attitudes and beliefs.  

 

S. Sounds like both models are effective. What are the skills needed for the “outside-in” coaching model?

 

M. For the traditional in-side coaching model, trust is a prerequisite-- the coach is schooled in questioning and reframe strategies. This model is much more powerful than my model. For the outside coaching model, trust is often a by-product, the coach is schooled in observation and feedback strategies.

 

S. What are some of the coaching skills the participants will walk away with?

 

M. * Accurate observations.

    * Identify the group’s value system

    * Provide constructive feedback for the group or individuals

    * Know you are asking the right question

    * Coding group dynamics

    * Dealing with Power

Accurate and positive information motivates a person’s professional growth.

To provide the participants an opportunity to practice 14 strategies which circumvent a person’s possible resistance.

 

S. While Coaching is in the spotlight this year, what are the take away skills for the other two focuses?

 

M. Group Dynamics

 

    * Building rapport between you and the group, within the group

    * Learn how group size and participant’s familiarity with it influence group dynamics

    * Recognizing and utilizing Leaders and Barometers in a group

    * Pacing and leading resistance

    * Directing group energy

    * Reading a group

"It is never your group. It is the Group’s group."

 

S. And Presentation skills?

 

M. Presentation Skills

 

    * Systematic use of non-verbals

    * In-house vs. public meeting skills

    * How to get an "Agreement Frame," increasing relevance

    * The A,B,C’s of learning–Attitudes/Behavior and/or Cognitive

    * Understanding the interplay of Content, Process, and Permission

    * Clarifying your purpose

    * Recognizing and increasing receptivity with special emphasis on Breathing

    * How not to get shot; handling attacks

"Does your non-verbal communication help or hinder your verbal message?"

 

    

   

 

 

Beyond Lip Service welcomes Michael Grinder from www.michaelgrinder.com/ Michael Grinder is a visionary with group dynamics. Called the “group whisperer” Michael, changes the game by creating community and understanding even with the most diverse members of a group. His holistic approach to group dynamics accelerates the formation of thriving communities. Michael's upcoming workshop "Group Wizardry" gives the busy professional the “cliff notes” to group dynamics success based on his forty-years experience compiled in his integral work Managing Groups — The Inside Track. Focus on taking action in your life. Join Sharon from www.impressionengineers.com Tuesdays at Ten (Pacific) Commentary and interviews with dynamic communicators and inspiring people. Practical skills for today — influence, inspire, and empower yourself and those in your world. Be Bold! Life is about taking ACTION.

Beyond Lip Service welcomes Janet Allison from www.languageofparenting.com We will discover the hidden mean of words. Words have meanings... "LANGUAGE is the outward manifestation of our thoughts. Spoken language is the gift of being human, yet we take it for granted. Afterall, do you remember a time when you couldn't speak? Language shapes us, even in utero, as mom's voice stimulates muscle responses in the fetus which then lay down new neural pathways in the developing brain. Language is the number one influence on your children." Beyond Lip Service is dedicated to focusing on taking action in your life. Join Sharon from www.sharonsayler.com Tuesdays at Ten (Pacific) Commentary and interviews with dynamic communicators and inspiring people. Practical skills for today — influence, inspire, and empower yourself and those in your world. Be Bold! Life is about taking ACTION.

Sallie Felton, co-author of the e-book "Clutter Free and Clear: Take Charge of Your Time and Space" joined me today on Beyond Lip Service. Sallie challenged us to reflect on the waus that clutter effects us, while defining clutter in three broad categories:

1. material
2. physical
3. emotional

She suggests setting non-negotiable appointments with ourselves to get specific tasks accomplished, actually scheduling them in your day planner.

Take the task and break it into 15 to 30 time segments makes it more manageable. One of her suggestions was to put on a 30 minute CD and work on the task until the music stopped. I thought of it as task musical-chairs; with a little discipline  (keeping the appointments with yourself) all the chairs (tasks) will be removed as you go! Clutter can overwhelm us, Sallie mentioned that when we fudge on our appointments with ourselves we are really making the statement "I'm really not that important. I can let it slide..." Would you let your kids or someone else important in your life "slide?" 

Speaking of kids, listen into the last 8 minutes of the May 5th Beyond Lip Service where we talk about great things to do with kids artwork... some things I never thought of. Drop me a comment or note share some of your declutter ideas.

More about Sallie: Sallie Felton, CMC, ACC has been a life coach and transitional specialist for 20 years. Her strength is she uses her client’s individual strengths to create and support his/her successful life goals.

Her expertise is regularly experienced by individuals all over the U.S. and
abroad through her renowned radio show, A Fresh Start with Sallie Felton, which  is broadcast live in Seattle on 106.9 FM HD Channel 3 and is available via the  WorldWide Web, Telstar Satellite Network and UpSnap Mobile Entertainment.

Sallie is co-author of the e-Book Clutter Free & Clear: Take Charge of Your Time and Space,  she is a bi-monthly contributor to Boomer Coffee House, and is a speaker and workshop facilitator.

For information, visit www.salliefeltonlifecoach.com


A parting thought is that your environment feeds your soul... start where you stand, set small, specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-oriented tasks. You'll be where you want to be in no time at all...

Have a great day whatever your adventure.
Sharon
www.sharonsayler.com

Beyond Lip Service welcomes Sallie Felton! She brings over 20 years combined experience in life coaching, start up businesses, deep imagery/visualization, and hypnotherapy. As a fully certified CMC, PCC professional life coach/transitional specialist, she has helped thousands (both one-on-one and through her workshops) of single women, young professionals, new mothers, small business entrepreneurs, mid-life adults, empty-nesters, baby boomers, retirees and those wanting to conquer clutter to design, create and reach their goals. Sallie has her own radio show, "A Fresh Start with Sallie Felton", it is broadcast live in Seattle, WA on 106.9 FM HD Channel 3 and on the Internet. She is co-author of the ebook, Clutter Free & Clear and The Small Business Owner Assessment Tool. www.salliefeltonlifecoach.com www.salliefelton.wordpress.com Focus on taking action in your life. Join Sharon from www.impressionengineers.com Tuesdays at Ten (Pacific) Commentary and interviews with dynamic communicators and inspiring people. Practical skills for today — influence, inspire, and empower yourself and those in your world. Be Bold! Life is about taking ACTION.